Thoughts

The first thing that went through my mind while I typed in the name for the post was Rihanna’s new song. Wild wild wild thoughts. Good song eh? Well, look at me rambling away and moving away from the topic. Anyhow, where was I?

Ah yes.

2016 was probably the year I lost my sanity work wise.And 2017 will be the year I got my bearings back. Well, sort of.

I’m not saying this year has been easy.It has had it’s fair share of ups and downs, but it also goes down as the year in which I was able to silence the voices in my head. You know what I’m talking about don’t you? The voices that make you question if you are good enough.

This was how a normal internal dialogue would look like

Me: Why did I say that? I’m such an idiot

Me: Hmm, my boyfriend hasn’t replied to my message.Maybe he’s cheating on me

Me:Should I text him again? No, i’ll come off as desperate. But seriously, why isn’t he texting

Me: Why would he do this to me? Maybe it was something I did. Maybe I’m not good enough

Yep, this was a just a tiny glimpse into my usual state of mind.However, things have changed since then.I’ve slowly been able to silence the demons.It hasn’t been easy, but these days I wake up with a sense of gratitude. I’ve changed my thought process from today’s going to be a horrible day, to today is going to be the best day of my life.Why is this important you may ask?

It’s because thoughts lead to emotions which in turn leads to action. Simple isn’t it?

It took me 28 years to figure that out. ūüôā

 

5 things to do when you are unemployed

So, I realized that it’s been a while since I’ve posted. I was going through a phase, a bad one. Long story short. I was jobless for roughly two months, and I’m not anymore.Now that I’ve written it down, it doesn’t seem so bad. But while I was jobless, it seemed like the worst stage of life to be in.

Since it was my first time being jobless, I had absolutely NO CLUE as to what to do with my life. My daily routine was suddenly replaced with nothing. I would wake up and have absolutely nothing to do. I avoided meeting people, stopped going out, and drove myself practically insane,and almost broke up with my boyfriend. Here is what I would suggest to someone who has recently lost their job:

  1. Create a routine for yourself: This is key. And it probably the toughest to do.After a month of moping around, I decided to join a language class.This forced me to wake up early, and gave me a purpose. After classes, I would head to breakfast, and then go back home, and scour the internet for jobs.I started cooking, exercising, and at times, I would meet a friend.
  2. Let people know about whats going on: When you are jobless, it is easy to shut yourself from the world, and go into a mode of depression. Talk to people. Let people know what you are going through. Who knows, your friends might know a company or an HR person who is looking out for someone.
  3. Take a break(if you have the money): While I was jobless, my friends decided to go on a trip. Initially, I decided not to go, but then I took a look at my finances, spoke to my boyfriend and decided that it would be good for me. I knew I had enough money for at least the next 3 months and that the break would help me unwind, and take a break from the incessant job hunting. Now that I look back, I am glad I went.
  4. Be prepared for unexpected rejections and don’t stop looking when you have scored one interview: I’ve lost count of the number of times I had interviewed, and gotten rejected. Some interviews would go really well, and the next day, I’d get a rejection email, and boy, did it stink! You experience cold shoulders from HR’s who said they would get back to you.The more rejections you face, the more dejected you become, and you start losing the confidence you had earlier.You start imagining that there might be something wrong with you. . The more this happens, the more dejected you become.My word of advice would be to not put all your eggs in one basket and stop looking at ¬†other jobs once you have had an interview.Always keep looking TILL you have a solid offer in hand.
  5. Don’t dwell on things that didn’t work: It would happen so often that after a good ¬† ¬† ¬†interview with no offer, I’d obsess about it. I’d wonder why I didn’t get the call. I’d ¬† ¬† ¬†picture in my head what I might have said that resulted me in not getting the call. ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†DON’T DO THIS. This isn’t helpful at all, and might even effect your future interviews.Focus on the present. Always!

In the end , know that this phase is temporary. Know that good times will come, and if you are still jobless even after 2-3 months, take up an internship, volunteer somewhere, learn something new, blog about it. The point is do something! Anything! But don’t let it kindle your spirit!

 

Power of the mind

I’ve always been an over thinker. And when a certain series of unfortunate events occurred, I went into an over drive of over thinking. Has it helped me in any way? Not at all. I’ve lost a couple of pounds, gone anti social, and some days I feel like there will be no end to the constant chit chatter of negativity in my head.

It is interesting how much power we give to our mind.How we let it reign free, and imagine scenarios in our head when things actually aren’t that bad at all.

Picture this. You have a long distance boyfriend. And sometimes, when he doesn’t reply, you imagine the worst scenarios in your head. The truth maybe something as simple as he might be honestly busy, but when the mind reigns free, the thoughts we have can get twisted and in the end, the only person who loses is you.

Lately, I have been trying to control these negative thoughts. When a negative thought pops up, I try and negate it with rationality. It is hard, but I do feel more at ease. My problems still exist, but at least I have some control over how I let these emotions wreck havoc, and make things worse.

How do you deal with negative thoughts?