I learned how to swim-at 28

The last couple of months have been filled with a flurry of activity

After months of cursing and wondering why I wasn’t getting a job, I got three job offers.I decided to go with the one that made most sense-in terms of long term career growth.And boy, do I regret it now.While I do enjoy the job, my manager drives me up the wall.If I had to describe him in one word, I’d call him an asshole.

I could feel myself drifting back to the world of self pity and sadness.I would hit snooze every time the alarm went off and think to myself, is this even worth it? I knew I had to do something that would make waking up worth it. So what did I do? Well, I joined swimming classes.

The first day of class, I woke up at 5am, sat on my bed and had this sinking feeling in the gut of my stomach.

“What if I hate this too? What if I suck? What if everyone else there is going to be younger than me? What if the others laugh at me?”

I wanted to go back to sleep right then, but I somehow made it to class.An hour later, I realised this was the best decision I had ever made.There were people in their 60’s, there were people who were fighting their fear of water, there were people who were recovering from accidents.I was inspired.I enjoyed being in the water. I also had something to look forward to every morning and although I still hate looking at my asshole managers face, learning how to swim did something for me, that I haven’t felt in a long time.

Learning how to swim gave me purpose. 🙂

P.S : Anyone hiring for an account manager? I’m your lady. 😛

 

 

 

I’m back or am I?

Despite my determination to keep this blog alive and active, I often get carried away by life! I’ve recently quit my second job,and have been taking a break from a lot of things. The place I worked in and the friends that I’ve made are two of the top things I’ve been keeping a distance from.
Why? I have no clue. I feel like my life isn’t as fulfilling as I would like it to be. I’ve been in Bangalore for over 7 years now, and witnessed the steady decline of the city that I once loved. The insane traffic, the sudden influx of people( most of whom I can’t stand), the waste disposal issues, the weather changes and so many other things. I feel like I need a fresh start in life. In a new place where I know none. I’ve been trying of course.I’ve given about 3 interviews in the past two months. I’m tired of the never ending rounds of interviews, the wait that follows, only to know that you have another round! It’s almost like a cycle isn’t it?
The only progress I have made so far is with my anxiety. I’ve been able to do a better job at keeping it at bay this time.But of course there are many things that do worry me.Will I survive this round of unemployment with positive results, will I be able to achieve the vision that ive built for myself, will I survive?

5 things to do when you are unemployed

So, I realized that it’s been a while since I’ve posted. I was going through a phase, a bad one. Long story short. I was jobless for roughly two months, and I’m not anymore.Now that I’ve written it down, it doesn’t seem so bad. But while I was jobless, it seemed like the worst stage of life to be in.

Since it was my first time being jobless, I had absolutely NO CLUE as to what to do with my life. My daily routine was suddenly replaced with nothing. I would wake up and have absolutely nothing to do. I avoided meeting people, stopped going out, and drove myself practically insane,and almost broke up with my boyfriend. Here is what I would suggest to someone who has recently lost their job:

  1. Create a routine for yourself: This is key. And it probably the toughest to do.After a month of moping around, I decided to join a language class.This forced me to wake up early, and gave me a purpose. After classes, I would head to breakfast, and then go back home, and scour the internet for jobs.I started cooking, exercising, and at times, I would meet a friend.
  2. Let people know about whats going on: When you are jobless, it is easy to shut yourself from the world, and go into a mode of depression. Talk to people. Let people know what you are going through. Who knows, your friends might know a company or an HR person who is looking out for someone.
  3. Take a break(if you have the money): While I was jobless, my friends decided to go on a trip. Initially, I decided not to go, but then I took a look at my finances, spoke to my boyfriend and decided that it would be good for me. I knew I had enough money for at least the next 3 months and that the break would help me unwind, and take a break from the incessant job hunting. Now that I look back, I am glad I went.
  4. Be prepared for unexpected rejections and don’t stop looking when you have scored one interview: I’ve lost count of the number of times I had interviewed, and gotten rejected. Some interviews would go really well, and the next day, I’d get a rejection email, and boy, did it stink! You experience cold shoulders from HR’s who said they would get back to you.The more rejections you face, the more dejected you become, and you start losing the confidence you had earlier.You start imagining that there might be something wrong with you. . The more this happens, the more dejected you become.My word of advice would be to not put all your eggs in one basket and stop looking at  other jobs once you have had an interview.Always keep looking TILL you have a solid offer in hand.
  5. Don’t dwell on things that didn’t work: It would happen so often that after a good      interview with no offer, I’d obsess about it. I’d wonder why I didn’t get the call. I’d      picture in my head what I might have said that resulted me in not getting the call.        DON’T DO THIS. This isn’t helpful at all, and might even effect your future interviews.Focus on the present. Always!

In the end , know that this phase is temporary. Know that good times will come, and if you are still jobless even after 2-3 months, take up an internship, volunteer somewhere, learn something new, blog about it. The point is do something! Anything! But don’t let it kindle your spirit!