Don’t call. Just message

article-2103456-11c80587000005dc-203_468x497Today, I’m going to talk about my morbid hatred of phone calls. Every time I hear the phone ring, I am filled with anxiety. In fact my hatred is so intense that in my 6 months of long distance relationship, I have called my boyfriend only once.We whatsapp all the time, and it helps that he doesn’t like talking much either.

If I had to talk about myself, I would say that I’m a relatively social person. I’m not scared of social encounters. In fact there have been many times when I have thrived in them.Does this mean I have a different sort of social anxiety? Is it because I can’t see the person I’m talking to? Do i feel like they may be judging ? I still don’t know.

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What’s your take?

Author: Welcometomyworld

29 Year old from Bangalore and turning 30 this year. Help me!

4 thoughts on “Don’t call. Just message”

  1. I have social anxiety, in addition to being phobic about phone calls. Specifically for yourself, so you feel anxious when the phone rings, and are you afraid to answer because you are nervous and uncomfortable over what to say to the person on the other end, even if it’s someone you know? This is how I feel whenever my phone rings. If the caller i.d. shows it’s someone I don’t know, I won’t answer. For everyone else, I still don’t like answering, but I do because I have to.

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    1. @justanervousgirl: Same! I had the habit of avoiding phone calls from unknown numbers, but while I was job hunting, I had to force myself to receive all calls. I feel like you can always correct yourself before sending a text message, but with a phone call, you can’t!

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      1. Ugh, I still have trouble accepting all calls, as I am currently job hunting and am always sending my resume out to job ads. I get so freaked out when I see a number come up with no name to the point my instinct is to not answer the call. Logically I know I should answer because it might be from a job I applied to. Any advice on how to make myself answer all calls?

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  2. I guess practice helped. I used to mess up the initial job related phone calls. But once I’d get done with it, I’d sit and think on what better to do next time. Also if a person called me out of the blue, and I wasn’t mentally prepared for it, I’d tell them I was busy and tell them that I’d call back in sometime.(This gave me time to prepare what I had to say without sounding like an idiot during the first call)

    If it’s a case where you need to make a call, then I’d recommend that you jot down key points on a note pad, and keep it in front of you, so that you don’t get too frazzled.It did help me quite a bit.Hope it helps!

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